yunlogy: Giving advices and opinion and the shitload of “what is right and wrong”…

when will one know enough is enough? How does one draw their own definition of what is enough? does giving any lesser mean that one does not care or does giving excessive makes one the most passionate person on earth? How does one know when to stop?

It all started last night during fishing when felix commented on his mate whose gf took nude or artistic pictures and had it posted on the web, followed by his theory of her elders who should have corrected such indecency actions. We ended up into a prolonged debate on who, how, which, what and why the younger ones should listen and take up their elders’ advices and opinions., even though they might not favour it.

This got me thinking…

In my opinion, if my loved ones were to do something which is ethnically and morally wrong, as an elder, I will provide the necessary advices and opinions over and over again and correct their actions when call for. However, I feel that ultimately, decision is up to them. We are talking about human beings, possibly teenagers who are at the age which they can think and decide, even though if their decision is made stubbornly and foolishly, to adults who could equally make the wrong moves.

We can only be “doctors” or “nurses” for so long – provide the right advices and medication – as to, whether the patient will consume the medicine, it is up to them.

I know a person personally whom betrayed her family in every possible way. Financially, morally, mentally and emotionally and we are talking about real damage made to her parents and siblings. I am very certain that the more experienced ones around her would have given overly-sufficient advices and directions and corrections. Yet, time and time again, her act of betrayal never stops and that was her decision. Of course, for the rest of her family members, they were left feeling beaten. For some, they had to clean up her damage and mess. However, if there comes one day, she were to return to the family and repent on her mistake sincerely, I am sure they will make up.

You can give all your advices and encouragements. You can provide the right directions. But at the end of the day, if the person does not take up your advice or directions and decides to go against it, what you need next is not anger and the attitude of “See, I told you so!”, BUT nothing except for the willingness to forgive and accept on what the person has done wrong.

enough of the heavy talks... so what have I been up to lately.....